UNIVERSITY OF HAMPSHIRE COOPERATIVE EXTENTION
Family Development Fact Sheet
The way adults talk with teens affects the way teens feel about themselves and other people. When adults talk with teens in respectful and helpful ways, they feel good about themselves and others. When adults talk in harmful ways, teens feel badly about themselves and about others.
- Talk in respectful and helpful ways
If you have no problems talking with your teen, then you don’t need to change your ways. If you do have problems you may find it hard to change. After all, you have been talking with your child in a certain way for more than 10 years.
Try the helpful ways discussed below. Practice them until they become natural. Remember, what works well for one person may not work for another. Use the tips that work for you and your teen.
- Express acceptance in words and actions.
- Talk to teens as you talk to your friend
- Learn to listen
- Listen more than you talk
- Use suggestions, not orders
- Tell teens about their good qualities
- Monitor teens in a respectful and appropriate way
- Express anger in a constructive way
- Speak out
- Avoid unkind words that put down teens
- Use kind words to build up your teen’s self-concept
- The importance of good communication
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